Rest in Peace

If you know Buffie, or knew her in high school you know what a wonderful person she is. She is a wonderful mother and the bestest friend you could ever ask for. The line of people that come before she does anything for herself is long and starts over there.

For the past 10-12 years she has been taking care of her father. It seems no one else was going to do it. She poured her heart and soul into it and did things I dont think many people would do.
It's taken its toll on her. The last few times I saw her, I saw a woman broken and tired. The spark in her eye was gone. Stress was all over her like a very large coat. Her laugh had changed and was not as readily available.

Larry, her dad, was funny. Funny in a way that always made me laugh and always made Buffie cringe. She started to call her parents Sue and Larry in high school and it always cracked me up. But you could see beyond it all, he loved her. She was his. No doubt. Maybe he wasnt always the dad she wanted or needed but he did the best he knew how. And Pa loved his grandboys too. They had a sweet spot with him.

Larry Chewning passed away August 16th, 2006. He was 63. His health has been very poor for a very long time. It was a shoe we knew was going to drop and at times we held our breath and waited and watched it dangle. But when it finally happened while a small sigh was finally able to be expalled again Buffie had to once more take a deep breath and dive back in. Handling the arrangements, taking care of all the details. Tying up the loose ends of his life.
The strain is unbearable.
She has two wonderful sons and a supportive husband, thank god.

I cannot think of a single thing I could do for her. It feels like a teaspoon of water on a forest fire but I wish oh how I wish I had an ocean for her. She will get thru this, she is so strong without even owning a cape.

I will miss Larry in my own way. I know Buffie will miss him too. But I hope you and your family and father can rest in peace soon. You should know in your heart you did the very best you could and you did often what others would not and for that alone you deserve to live the rest of your days in peace.